Saturday, October 18, 2025

The nature of Love


Sermon for the eighteenth Sunday after Trinity

Of the 613 commandments 
of the Jewish Law
you know the top two,
don't you?

Love the Lord thy God
with all thy heart and soul
and mind and strength.

Love thy neighbour 
as thou lovest yourself.

Right?

Yes?

No!

[PAUSE]

The first commandment is correct.

The second isn't,
but the difference is subtle.

It isn't,
"Love thy neighbour 
as thou lovest thyself"
it's 
"Love thy neighbour as thyself."

Same difference?

Just different phrasing?

It's so much deeper than that.

[PAUSE]

In this day and age,
we see ourselves 
as individuals 
each doing our own thing.

More and more people
are choosing to live alone
so that they can live
their life by their rules.

We see people challenging 
even the most obvious 
and basic facts about the world
so that they can live
how they want to live.

The temptation that we have
is that we are in control 
of our identity 
and no-one,
not even society,
biology,
logic
or even God
has a right to say who we are.

We define ourselves,
on our terms
based on what 
we feel ourselves to be.

We are always looking 
for what makes us distinct 
from other people
particularly those
with whom we disagree most.

In this vision,
the human race
becomes nothing 
but a collection of individuals 
with no connection to each other,
no relationship of any depth
beyond the emotional,
no responsibility to each other
than just following the law.

There is no love there
apart from the feeling
of warmth and niceness
about someone.

And when that feeling ebbs away
so does love.

[PAUSE]

Love thy neighbour as thyself.

The Lord is challenging us
to look for the connection 
that unites all humanity.

He invites,
not forces us
to see ourselves 
in other people 
that,
at the very depth of our being
we share something,
something fundamentally human.

The Lord invites us
to see that the good 
that we want for ourselves 
is the good that we want for others
because we share human nature 
and God loves human beings.

The depths of God's love for us
is cross-shaped
- we know that so well.

But in being made man,
Christ unites each of us
in His humanity
so that we can be united 
in His divinity.

If we are each united in Him
then we are each united 
with each other.

The happiness we wish for ourselves 
is the happiness that God wants for us,
and is the happiness that 
we must wish for our neighbour 
precisely because,
whether we like it or not,
we share our humanity with them.

To paraphrase Dorothy Day
our love for God 
is measured by the love
we have for the one we love least.

[PAUSE]

It also means that 
we are worthy of love,
just by existing.

No-one is unloved 
even if we feel it,
even if we sit in the darkness 
of the misery of our fallen lives.

We are loved 
and that love is always 
close to us in God.

Let us, then,
let that love be close to others
in our lives and relationships 
with them.


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